I’m barely even adulting. I’m just 21 and I can already tell you that my friendships have changed so much over the past 6 years or so. It’s ridiculous to even think about because I can’t believe it has been that long. I don’t know where all that time even went!
But that’s how life works, I guess. You never know when change can sneak up on you. It might not seem like a big change when it happens, but the repercussions are definitely huge when you look back after a few years.
I can tell you one thing for sure, though. It’s that the friendships that I’ve made in my adulting years are definitely stronger because there is this unspoken understanding that there is no need to talk all the time. Everyone’s off doing their own thing, but it doesn’t affect our friendship in any way.
1. You become more understanding.
You’re no longer a teenager and this is the time when you have to put in a lot more thought before deciding whether you want to party out late, get some sleep or work on your goals. This goes for everyone! So, nobody takes it personally when you have to take a rain check because ‘something came up!‘
2. Taking time out to catch up doesn’t happen as often as you want.
Because you’re so busy trying to actually find your place in this big, bad world, hanging out with each other takes a backseat. There will be times when you go months without getting a decent opportunity to catch up outside of the internet, even if you live in the same city, but if you’ve got great friends, it doesn’t feel like a huge change.
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3. You’re okay with smaller friend circles.
Unlike your younger self who probably used to think that having more friends means that you’re popular or cool or something like that, you become comfortable with the idea of smaller, more close-knit circles. You value your friends for the emotional bond you share and not the number of friendship bands you got this year.
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4. You become better at maintaining long-distance friendships.
Adulting usually means that somebody or the other is going to move to another city. This change is inevitable and the adult thing to do is to be accepting of this change and supportive of the new life they’re going to start. But thanks to social media and the powers of the internet, Distance doesn’t feel like the bad guy so much. It gets easier over time, though.
5. You’re more supportive of each other’s choices.
Whether your friend is in a serious relationship, is getting married soon, or planning to quit their job and chase their dreams— you just understand their reasons to do so. Not that you owe each other any explanations, but you’re 100% supportive of each other. There is a new sense of maturity that adulting brings to our friendships, and trust me when I tell you that it’s pretty comforting.
I’m pretty sure adulting brings a lot more changes to friendships, so let me know if I missed anything in the comments below. Just remember that friendship doesn’t have to take a backseat because you’ve got new priorities in life. There’s a place for everything in our lives if we know how to balance them.
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