Ignore For Attention?

Does that make any sense to you? No? Me neither.

Apparently, the latest fad is to ignore people until they come over to talk to you. You ignore, and ignore and ignore the person, hoping that they would understand that you’ve been avoiding them, to the point where they can’t take the silence anymore and start wondering what they’ve done to deserve this. That’s when they start paying attention to you!

I have no idea why people think that it is very ‘cool’ to ignore somebody to catch their attention. You know what? Utter rubbish, is what it is. I just don’t see the logic here. How is ignoring someone going to draw them towards you? Well, I hate to break your bubble, but ignoring people is only going to push them away, not bring them closer. If being ignored can hurt you, it most definitely can hurt others too.

“One of the worst states to be in, is to be ignored. Obscurity like insecurity, kills!”
― Bernard Kelvin Clive

You want someone to notice you? Well, make yourself heard! Stand out! Better yet, go talk to the person whose attention you so crave, instead of coming up with all these stupid mind-games, like ignoring them, or avoiding them, or refusing to answer their calls or text messages altogether!

The problem with us is that we live in a time where all the movies, all the television shows, and sometimes even books, stress on the fact that ‘playing hard to get’ is a sure-shot way to get people to come over to talk to you. It is totally wrong. You ignoring someone would surely make them wonder what’s wrong, but then, it is not the solution that you’re looking for.

This method might seem to work in poorly written fiction, but in real life, pushing someone away simply means that you want to distance yourselves from them- which is kinda’ rude, to be frank. And being rude gets you nowhere.

I can’t seem to stress enough on the point that you should talk to the person instead of ignoring them, if you want to be noticed. There is no problem in the world that cannot be solved by talking! Remember what Albus Dumbleore said?

“Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

And it is true. Communication is a key that can open so many doors, only if you knew how to use it. Ignoring someone, on the other hand, is the opposite of communication. How can we ever expect to solve things if kept on ignoring them?

What if I told you that even if someone really fell in love with you, you pushed them away from yourselves while craving for attention? Ask yourself, is this what you had in mind when you decided you would ignore them to win their affection? No? I thought so.

Stop this stupid practice, guys! Ignoring is the opposite of whatever solution you want. Get it together and go talk it out with the person concerned. The pretty girl you like, but have been ignoring? Go talk to her. Ignoring her is only pushing her away. The friend you had a misunderstanding with, ages ago? Go talk to them. They probably miss you, too.

Be more vocal. It helps. Trust me on this one!

Cheerio! Xx

The post is written from my point of view. Everyone might have their own opinions on this topic. This is mine.

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Yours truly, 

The Shubhster.

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