I am at a point in my life where I have to question my choices very carefully. I have people telling me what the right thing to do would be, and I know what the right thing to do for myself is. Choosing between these two might cause a huge blow-out that I do not know how to avoid, yet.
But one thing is for certain: the more I ask myself whether I want to stick with the idea of a life that someone other than myself has mapped out for me, I realize that it is not up to them to decide what my life should look like. I shouldn’t have to seriously consider what plans others have for me because they do not make me happy and they do not align with the plans that I have for my own life.
The point is that even though I have no idea where to begin with my planning for the life I have in mind, I am still living it on my own terms. The second I allow anyone other than myself to make plans for my life, I am surrendering control and I don’t think I am okay with that. I shouldn’t have to be.
I have spent a great deal of time wondering if I have been doing something wrong because I am nowhere close to achieving the things I thought I would have already by this moment in my life. Then again, that is how life works. Nobody knows when our plans are going to shift and things could be as unpredictable as they can get. In such a situation, it is always difficult to determine how much our plans are going to be altered over time. It doesn’t make sense for any of us to stress over something that hasn’t even been determined yet.
I’d like to think that all of us have a right to decide what we need to do with our lives. Sometimes, it may feel as though we are lagging behind because so many of our peers have already crossed the milestones that we wanted to do ourselves but it is only because we have been told that we need to achieve certain things by a certain age. This is something we all have to unlearn at some point because life has so much more to offer than just society’s opinion of it.
Most importantly, just because someone else is ready to take a certain step in their lives, it doesn’t mean that you have to be ready, too. Things take their own time to happen and forcing them into existence is going to do us no favours.
I know it seems pretty much impossible to do so, but we need to trust the process sometimes and keep doing our own thing until everything falls into place. The only thing we need to remember is to never settle for anything less than what we want from life.
Even if that takes a little longer than necessary. Believe me, you’ll thank yourself for it later. Xx