Dear Shy Person,
I really wish you were a little less shy about being your true self. I know that you feel like you don’t fit in, but guess what- you don’t have to fit in. You’re an amazing person just the way you are. Your ideas are so out-of-the-box and so are you. If anyone ridicules you for your different ideas, it is probably because they are jealous of you for having ideas that they can never come up with! You are unique because you are an original. People who try to fit in often lose their originality- remember that.
You are one of the nicest people I have ever met. You don’t judge anybody and embrace everyone, even if they are flawed- you embrace the flaws. It’s your shy nature that makes you all the more mysterious and intriguing. People want to get to know you better because you seem like a very nice person- which you obviously are! You’re the kind of person everyone secretly wants to be friends with. You might be called a nerd, for being so silent and taking down all the notes to escape people. But what they don’t know is how wonderful a person you can be. You just need to get out there, break through your shell.
“So many people are shut up tight inside themselves like boxes, yet they would open up unfolding quite wonderfully, if only you were interested in them.”
-Sylvia Plath, Johny Panic And The Bible Of Dreams, Prose And Diary Excerpts
I want you to know that we don’t think that you’re weird just because you are shy and reserved. In fact, we would love to make friends with you and get to know the person behind that veil of mystery. Everyone likes a good mystery and you are an entire collection of mystery novels! All you need to do is come and talk to us. Don’t worry for a second about ‘invading our privacy’ because you’re not. I totally get it if you are scared of our response, but how would you know if you never tried? How would we know the person you really are, unless we talked to you?
Here’s the thing- don’t be afraid of the labels people give you. Did they call you reserved, or shy, or a fly-on-the-wall? Well, they don’t know you yet, to define you that way. You know the person you really are. So don’t let such labels affect your wonderful personality! Don’t let the Muggles get you down, darling! You’re like a deep river, and deep rivers always run quietly. You have an amazing imagination. You’re a storehouse of talent. You are like Demi Lovato in the movie Camp Rock– scared and ridiculed but also immensely talented, with a determination to overcome your shyness to show the world how talented you are.
“My feelings are too loud for words and too silent for the world.”
Just because you’re a little shy and unable to come forward like everyone else does, it doesn’t mean that you’re any lesser than any other person. In fact, you have been given the same capabilities and it is up to you to develop them in your own way. So you take a little more time than other others did, how does it even matter? Every single bud has its own time for blooming. If you’re not a bud that blooms overnight, you’re probably the kind of bud that takes a whole day to bloom. You aren’t everyone else. You are you.
You might feel inferior sometimes, but you’re not. Work on yourself. You are strong- remind yourself. You are unique. You are talented. You are a wonderful person with a huge potential inside of you. And if you don’t let it show, all that wonderful talent is going to go unnoticed. It shouldn’t go unnoticed, because talent and potential like that deserves recognition. I have a really special quote by Jane Austen for you:
“Shyness is only the effect of a sense of inferiority in some way or the other. If I could persuade myself that my manners were perfectly easy and graceful, I should not be shy.”
-Jane Austen, Sense And Sensibility
The more you hold yourself back from breaking out of your shell, the more you restrict yourself and your abilities. There is a whole world out there waiting for you- only if you break out of your shell. You can be anything you want to be. You, my friend, have a long way to go. Start small. Take baby steps towards lifting your veil. Peek out of the veil, initially. Start opening up, a little at a time. In no time at all, you are going to be an amazing person who not only knows what it is like to be shy and scared, but also knows how to put the other shy people at ease so that they can break through.
Just because people see you as a sullen and insecure little thing, doesn’t mean that you really are all those things. I get it- it takes time to adjust to something new. Maybe even years. Sometimes, when you just start getting adjusted, it is time for something new. This might scare you a little. But change is the only constant- and we should all understand that.
So, my dear shy friend, if you ever feel shy or awkward about yourself again- remind yourself that you are an amazing person and you have nothing to be shy or scared about.
All my love,
The person who really wants to see you break through the shell.
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