I wondered what I should write about today and then my friend told me that sometimes we wake up and realize that our love for somebody (not necessarily romantic) has just vanished and how oddly liberating that can be. Does it sound like a bad thing? Of course, it does. Does it hurt? Yes. But does it leave you with a heavy heart? No. If anything, we only end up feeling lighter, as if the air had somehow become easier to breathe. It isn’t really a bad thing, however, because that’s just the way some of our relationships are supposed to run their course.
I saw a very interesting graph of how certain people cross paths during their lifetime. It baffles me how very few of them actually stuck by to the end. Almost every other graph seemed to meet once or twice and then parted ways in different directions. And the more I see people walk out, the more I see people revealing their true colours, the more I realise that not everyone is supposed to make it to the finish line with me. They don’t deserve to have that kind of a position in my life because that’s the way things are sometimes.
It’s nobody’s fault. It’s just the way some relationships in our lives are fated to be. There doesn’t necessarily have to be any sort of bad blood between you and them, but at the same time, you really don’t vibe with them anymore and unfortunately, you have to part ways. You drift apart and no matter what you do to ‘go back to the way things used to be’, it doesn’t work out because things just can’t go back to how they were. We all change, whether know it or not, and so do our friendships and relationships.
A couple of days ago, I found a gift I’d made for a friend for her 19th birthday. I had the box with me for over 3 years, and I never got a chance to send it over because of personal reasons. And now, the friendship sadly doesn’t exist because we drifted apart a long time back. We’ve tried to force the friendship for old times’ sake, but it just didn’t feel right anymore. So we don’t really talk now. I don’t hate her; in fact, I wish her the best, but I don’t want to include her in the very big things in my life because I only consider a very small number of people worthy of it.
We all are going to see so many faces walk in and out of our lives during the years we spend here. We get attached to some, some last forever, others drift away. Some are worth the effort you put into the equation you share, others are just dead plants that don’t respond to your watering. There isn’t a lesson here or anything. Instead, this is just something that we need to accept as a part of growing up. Life is unpredictable and weird. Sometimes, things don’t turn out to be the way you want them to be.
But here’s the most important thing: you may not see it right away, but anything that happens is for a reason, and more often than not, for the better. You’ll see.
Sending you hugs,
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