I know, it has been a while. Here’s what you missed: I got through college. I’m officially a free woman. But am I really free? Is anyone ever, really? Yeah, I don’t think so.
A few days back, my best friend (name not revealed for obvious reasons) told me that she found herself in a ‘DUFF-like’ situation in college. Now, to people who are unfamiliar with the term ‘DUFF’, it stands for the ‘Designated Ugly Fat Friend’. According to a ‘popular’ trend, the DUFF is someone who is the least attractive, but approachable member in a group of friends. The said DUFF doesn’t have to be actually ‘ugly’ or ‘fat’, but less attractive when compared to the other members of the group. Everyone approaches the DUFF to get closer to the more attractive people in the group.
If you look at this trend closely, it’s pretty messed up. Using people for your own advantage? So not cool! It’s hurtful and lowers the self-esteem of the one who is subjected to such a cruel treatment. It might not be as bad as bullying, but it sure does rank a close second on the list.
Naturally, I posted about this on my social media and waited for people to react. It was quite an unpleasant surprise when I saw that people found the DUFF situation funny, which proved two things- a lot of people don’t give a damn about anyone else’s feelings, but their own, and, humanity is slowly dying. There is no other way to put it.
Here’s what happens when you DUFF someone- they feel horrible about themselves. They start thinking they’re not good enough for anybody and it takes a bad hit on the said person’s mental health. People who get DUFF-ed aren’t stupid, you know? They understand what’s going on. They just can’t do anything about it.
Even though it can happen to people at any given age, the DUFF trend is rampant among today’s teenagers. I have been DUFF-ed a lot of times in the past because my friends are clearly more attractive than I am; boys would text me asking if they stood a chance with one of my girl friends. Parents who are reading this may not be familiar with the term. But I would suggest that you make sure your child or friend isn’t going through something similar. If they are, please remind them of their self-worth. Make sure that they don’t come to accept their label of the DUFF. Shower them with lots of love.
And here’s a final message to everyone: if you really consider yourself to be a good friend, please speak up against the jerks who think they can get away with DUFF-ing you or one of your friends. Don’t tolerate such losers. There is always going to be someone who is more attractive than you are, and your beauty doesn’t account for anything if you have the personality of a garbage bag. You are the DUFF to someone, somewhere. Remember that the next time you get too cocky.
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