13th June, 2019
I’ve lost the track of times I’ve had to walk on eggshells around somebody just because I’ve had to maintain a level of cold civility whenever they’ve been around. I guess sometimes, you just have to be a nice person in spite of how little you can stand the person you need to get along with professionally, or for whatever other reason. And of course, no training can be a successful one if you haven’t hit some snags along the way. So yes, I’ve left a lot of broken eggshells in my attempt to simply walk on them. It’s a real struggle!”
Out of all the challenges I’ve overcome in life, I thought that learning how to walk on eggshells and containing my anger during really tense situations would be the hardest one. I guess it’s just one of those things that you have to learn in spite of yourself because you can’t afford to shut everybody out all the time. I’ve been told that it’s ‘plain rude’ and ‘un-ladylike’, whatever that’s supposed to mean. And I thought it was high time I put on a filter instead of offending a lot of people.
But soon enough, I realized that what’s even harder is standing your ground and being able to make yourself heard, no matter how polite you’re required to be in a certain situation, even if the metaphorical eggshells are going to end up broken. Nobody has to put up with anybody being rude to them. Learning how to stand my ground, and being unafraid of how I seem to the world, has been an even bigger challenge than holding it together, and I’m grateful I can do that.
Sometimes in life, we will come across people or things that will get on our nerves in the most annoying way possible, and we’ll have two options in front of us: either play it cool and let it go, or stand your ground. And we often get really confused between the two, but let me simplify things for you— play it cool when you know that arguing with them is going to end up being a waste of precious time; stand your ground when they’re being a world-class jerk to anybody in general.
I’m glad I’ve overcome my fear of coming across as ‘rude’ because now, I don’t have to be scared of putting myself out there and voicing my thoughts. It may sound silly because it’s not a big deal for a lot of us. But for what I feel is worth, I’m pretty damn proud of it!
Don’t be afraid of cracking some eggs, y’all! You never know, they might just turn out to be rotten!
Hey guys! I hope you liked my post. For day 13 of gratitude, I chose to write about one challenge that I feel is very important that I overcame. I would love to hear similar stories from you! You can also contact me on my Instagram. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!