Warning: brutal honesty; you may not like me so much by the end of this post.
Not that it is wrong to celebrate the little instances of happiness in our lives. But when we try to excessively polish and curate our social media profiles, or create an anonymous online persona for no other reason but that we don’t want to be our true selves, we’re simply seeking an escape from all of our worries. We judge our self-worth with the number of likes and comments that our selfies get, and pride ourselves in wearing expensive glamour.
It’s definitely not wrong if we do it because we truly have a passion for the finer things in life. But on the off-chance that we’re unnecessarily showing off just to make ourselves feel better, you’re being plain disrespectful to yourself an I am here to make sure that you resist, if not put an end to doing these things:
1. Being too harsh on yourself.
First of all, no matter how many times you have to drill this into your brain, understand that the people you so idolize on social media, they aren’t as perfect as you think. There are more than twenty different apps that allow you to distort your originals in all sorts of ways to make you feel a little better about the way you look. Most celebrities take their photos under 200% pre-polished lighting conditions, spend 3 hours in hair and make-up, have an entire village of people to tell them what to eat, what to wear, how to behave in public— all that. Very few of those people actually believe in showing their true selves online. You don’t know much about them! So stop trying to model your entire existence around their looks or lives. Stop starving or exerting yourself to look like them. Stay true to yourself. You’re good enough. You’ll make it too!
2. Hanging out with the toxic crowd.
If your excuse to sticking around trash is the fear of being left alone, then let me tell you that being alone is way better than hanging out with a bunch of people who do nothing but make you question your own worth. I get it. You don’t want to be a ‘loner’ or miss out on whatever it is that is trending these days. But you know what, you don’t have to be around people who make you feel like you’re nothing. You can always start over and make new friends. Contrary to popular belief, the strength of your friendship cannot be determined by how long you have known each other. Be around people who inspire and value you. Be around people who truly appreciate you.
3. Always putting everybody else’s needs first.
You just want to be a nice person, and I am glad because not a lot of you exist in this world anymore. And I mean it in the most loving sense when I ask you this: Are you completely out of your mind? Do you have no respect for yourself anymore? It’s great that you put everyone else first. But doing so while ignoring your own needs isn’t cool. It’s called being a martyr. It’s called being co-dependent. Understand this: you are of no use to anybody when you’ve spent every bit of yourself trying to make time for others. It’s okay to take some time off to focus on your own health. You come first.
If you’ve made it this far, then I have to say, thanks for sticking around this long even though I was dropping unnecessarily harsh truth bombs here. Someone had to tell you these things! Start searching for validation within before you try to find it outside.
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