For the past two weeks, I’ve been writing about self-love and self-care. because somehow, it seemed like an appropriate time to dedicate an entire month to these topics. With everything that I see on my social media pages every day and knowing that it’s only a tiny fraction of people who are struggling to love themselves, I thought that it was high time I wrote something that actually made a difference to people.
Now, I’m not sure if what I write actually makes a difference, but I can only keep doing what I do in the hopes that someday, it reaches you when you really need someone to tell you that it is okay to pay attention to yourself, it’s okay to be a little ‘high-maintenance’, or that’s okay to simply take a day to focus on yourself.
Besides, I’m not going to have any kind of credibility as a writer (or blogger) if I don’t spill my guts about what this exact topic means to me. There’s a very simple rule about the things I choose to write about: I don’t write about the things I don’t know. I do better when I write what I know from experience, so here I am, telling you all about what self-love means to me.
But when it comes to my own experiences with practicing self-love, I don’t know how to put all of it into words. And maybe that’s because despite writing down simple routines and checklists to make sure everyone else around me has an easier time dealing with self-love and self-care, I don’t follow a routine or anything.
Honestly, I’ve only been at this journey to self-love for about 11 months now, so I don’t even know if I’m the right person to be telling you what’s the right way to love yourself and what’s not. Then again, isn’t self-love supposed to be unique to every single person? What works for me might not work out for you, and I really don’t want to bum anybody out.
What I do know about practicing self-love is that you cannot let society get to you. They’ll keep piling up of their harsh comments about the person you should be to simply fit in. But sometimes, loving yourself is about not fitting in or being just another face in the crowd. It’s about accepting that you don’t want to do what everybody else is doing, no matter how much ridicule you’re subjected to for not taking that road.
Self-love to me is knowing that I need to take some time off to clear my head, to write in my journal, paint or write my feelings out. It’s about seeing a strong person who can keep her head high when I look into a mirror. It’s telling myself that it’s okay to feel like I’m not good enough on the bad days because I’m only human. No one can keep it together all the time; your mind deserves some rest too.
It’s about finding comfort in a good book or in a lengthy conversation with my best friends. To me, loving myself is almost synonymous to self-care. It’s about being body-positive, as well as being mindful of my health enough to get a good workout in.
Self-love is such an abstract concept because even after all of this, I don’t think I can ever fully explain what it means to me and how I practice it. I guess it’s more about finding out what gives you the feeling of being at peace with yourself, even if you’re a work in progress. And sometimes, especially if you’re a work in progress.
You’re allowed to be a masterpiece even if you’re still working on yourself. Just remember that.
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