Day 21: How I Deal With Negativity.

Everyone always tells me that I am a very emotional person and I’ve been told a lot of times that I need to keep my emotions in check as if having fluid emotions is a bad thing. On top of that, I am a very positive person most of the time. So it’s no surprise that when it comes to extremely negative and emotionally draining situations, I don’t react too well to it initially.

I am not ashamed to say that I look at the world with rose-coloured glasses most of the time. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as I don’t ignore what’s actually going on with the world. I feel like being emotional helps me express myself better, even though I may come off as ‘dramatic’ sometimes. Personally, I’ve always believed in wearing my heart on my sleeve and not bottling up my emotions because it has never helped anybody.

In fact, bottling up emotions only leads to bigger and worse breakdowns that can be triggered by even the smallest inconvenience. So, a healthy dose of catharsis helps me channel my emotions in a better and sometimes more productive manner. But we all are caught slipping at some point or the other, and I am by no means perfect. I’ve always been honest and open about having bad times; I’m no stranger to them.

You see, negativity can come in so many forms in our lives. It could be a toxic person disguised as a friend, it could be an abusive relationship, it could be pesky relatives, an entitled boss, a harmful habit— anyone and anything that drains you physically and emotionally, and not in a good way, is toxic. The sooner you get rid of them, the better you’ll be.

But amidst all this crazy that we call ‘Life’, we need a momentary escape to clear our heads and recentre ourselves. We need an emotional touchstone. Something that can keep us grounded even in the middle of all the drama. And more often than not, latching yourself on to something that can give you a sense of safety can also help you deal with the kind of negativity that this world can throw at you.

Personally, I have always dealt with negativity by letting all of my emotions out. It might sound like the ‘weak’ thing to do, but after a good cry, when I’ve cleared my head, I write it all down in my journal and then do something I like. I write, read, sketch or simply listen to the kind of music that cheers me up. That has always helped me because, at my core, I am an artist. I am a creative mind, so channelling my emotions through creativity helps me deal with negativity in a productive manner.

Thankfully, I have been blessed with the best of the best people in my life who love and support me. I’ve never felt the need to hide anything from them because they’ve given me the extra strength I need from time to time. It’s not like any of us need to reminded of our self-worth, but to quote Taylor Swift here, ‘It’s nice to have a friend‘.

Finally, I just want to tell all of you that dealing with negativity isn’t an ‘art’. It’s not rocket science. People, things or habits that can be problematic to your life need to go, and it’s really as simple as that. I get that some people find it harder than others, but taking baby steps isn’t so scary. You might want to start by blocking and deleting the problematic people out of your life.

You can do this! I believe in you.

Cheerio! Xx

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Yours truly,
The Shubhster.

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