You know, it’s so weird to even be talking about this in detail because I’ve never really given it a lot of thought before. I obviously knew that I was becoming a much better person by simply being around my best friends, but I didn’t really get into the nitty-gritty of how much I actually learn from them.
Throughout school and college, I’ve been a part of very different groups. I’ve had a very different experience from every other group of friends. But no matter how much we try to stay in touch, we’re bound to drift apart after a while. And the only people you want to talk to and share any kind of news with first is the one you’d call your best friend.
I can safely say that I have, like, 4 best friends. I guess I just outgrew some people because I couldn’t really vibe with them anymore. It’s probably rude to say this, but when some ‘friendships’ get suffocating and exhausting, they no longer can be called that. They’re just toxic and you’re better off without them in your life. And then some will stick around on a trip to Hell and back with you. That’s when you’ll know that you need to cherish their presence in your life forever.
That’s how I feel about my best friends. I’ve met them all due to sheer coincidence and I don’t know what it was that made us connect the way we did, but I cannot be happier about it. I haven’t known them for as long as I used to think you’d need to know somebody to call them ‘best friends’, but I’ve realized that it doesn’t necessarily have to work that way.
Given that all of my best friends live in a different city than I do, I’m pretty good at maintaining these friendships in my life. Let me put it this way: the 18-year-old me would’ve never thought that friendships could thrive in spite of the distance, but the current me knows better. My friendships have been thriving for over 3 years, even though we only meet, like, once a year.
And needless to say, having long-distance friendships has taught me to be patient. Since most of our conversations take place over an exchange of texts or memes, it’s not like we talk to each other all the time. But we make sure that we fill each other in on whatever is going on in our lives. Like I said, it’s all about the people you want to share the good news with first.
Another thing that my best friends have taught me is that I shouldn’t have to be insecure about people walking out on me. I remember a time when I was so stressed about them walking out that I started going crazy. In my defence, I’ve had people brush me aside and walk out as if our friendship meant nothing. And it wasn’t until my best friend had a heart-to-heart with me saying that there is nothing I should be afraid of when it comes to our friendship, and just like that, I stopped being worried. I don’t think I’ve ever truly believed anybody who has said that to me until my best friend did.
Having people like my best friends has reaffirmed my faith in the fact that quality always trumps quantity. Sure, I don’t party every other weekend, or have as many group selfies with a whole bunch of people like a lot of the people I went to college with do. Actually, I don’t hang out with people, like, ever these days because I don’t connect with them as much. But when it’s my best friends, no amount of time spent with them ever feels too much. We could be talking about burgers one minute and the discussion could take a tangent and we’d end up crying, laughing.
Whether it’s something new in pop-culture, or a good book, a skin-care routine that I’ve never heard of, a new recipe or just plain old gossip, I feel as though every single day that I have my best friends in my life is a learning process. Because we’re all just a bunch of newly-instated adults stumbling around and finding our place in this world; it’s a scary world but it’s a lot better when you have best friends like mine to face it with.
What do you learn from your best friends? Let me know in the comments below. If you’re interested in joining me on my journey to self-discovery, grab a notebook and start writing! It’s that easy. And I’m here on my socials if you ever need somebody to talk to, as well!
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