I have a very, very small circle when it comes to the people I choose to confide in, which is a drastic change from the social butterfly that I used to be as a teenager. I still wear my heart on my sleeves and I am not afraid of putting my emotions out there, but I no longer let people in like before. It’s probably a toxic trait and, believe me, I am trying to work on that, but it’s not as easy as it seems.
I totally understand people who are very guarded and reserved about letting others get close to them because I’ve been there at some point. We all have. It might be because we let our guard down and got hurt badly because we weren’t expecting to be hurt by those we chose to confide in, or it could just be because of who we are as a person. Either way, letting people in is a scary topic for most people who are around my age or younger.
And can you even blame us? I used to wonder if the world could get any worse but hey, I’ve been proven wrong every single day. I see people who deserve nothing but love getting their hearts broken, I see the friendliest people being ostracized for no reason at all, I see people releasing their ex-friends’ secrets the second they’re no longer friends. I mean, if integrity is such a difficult concept to grasp, how can we expect to let anybody in at all?
We could go on and on about letting the right ones in, and I am all for it. But these days, who can tell? Don’t get me wrong. I still think that we should let people in because we cannot hide behind the walls we have built around ourselves. And no matter how many times letting people in has hurt us in the past, it is our ability to choose love and compassion over everything else that makes all the difference in the world.
I get why people don’t want to feel anything these days. It’s easier to ignore your actual issues when you’re numb to everything and everyone around you. But it’s a terribly short life that we all have been given to lead. We could either spend our days being bitter and guarded, or we could actually take the time to get to know ourselves better to understand the kind of people we want to be surrounded by.
Personally, I have now reached a point where I have my own ‘elite squad’; the chosen few that I let in because I have all the faith in the world in them. I was going with my gut when I let them in, but they have never let me down till date and I hope I am good enough to hold the same position in their lives as well.
TL; DR, whether you want to let people in is up to you, but you cannot keep everyone at bay just because you’ve been hurt by someone who didn’t know your worth.
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