“Sometimes I wonder if appearances can really be deceiving, and then I think of all the times I’ve seen people going through an inner turmoil put on the brightest smile on their faces. So, yes, they really can.
What I cannot wrap my head around is the fact that, despite knowing that things aren’t always as they seem on the outside, people often tend to downplay the other person’s emotions. If you tell me that you’ve never called somebody dramatic for bursting in tears, I’d call you a liar because we’ve all done that at some point in time.
The only difference is that some of has have learned to be a better person, while the rest of us still can’t understand just why people who hold things back have sudden emotional outbursts. It’s all a matter of learning and empathy, really. A basic and necessary trait, you’d think, but you’d be surprised when you find out just how many people lack them.
Because I am incredibly sensitive to change, I can tell fake smiles from the real ones and the slightest change in tone (even via text) is a big giveaway. I can usually tell when people are going through something because I’ve tried to understand them over time. But a lot of us have not and it really shows.
One thing I can’t stand is when people call a person ‘dramatic’ and ‘attention-seeking’ when all they do is try to hold themselves back. We, as outsiders, do not know what a person is going through, so what makes some people think that they’re probably just pretending to be sad? I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you bail on somebody just because you ‘are awkward around emotional people’ or because you ‘think they’re playing pretend’, you’re just being an ass and that’s that.
It’s a whole other story if you’re not in the right headspace yourself, but if you’re bailing on people because you ‘think’ they’re just pretending, I don’t know what to tell you.
Please be a nicer person. Try to be, at the very least. You could be the nicest person in the world and you’ll still have miles to go. I’m learning and is everybody else.
To everyone who has been snubbed for having an emotional outburst, I hope you know that you’re very, very valid and that you deserve better. Know that at least one person out there cares about what you have to say and how you have to say it, without any judgement. You have a voice and you shouldn’t have to hold it in all the time. You’re valid and I hope your internal storms calm down and you find the peace that you’re looking for.
As for everyone else, a little empathy never killed anybody, you know? Just be nicer to people. You never know who needs it.
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