Let me ask you something. If you had to choose between holding on to a rope that’s hurting you, and letting it go even though you’ll lose what is at the end of the rope, what would you choose? Would you still hold on to the rope burning your hands? Even if you do hold on, how long before your hands are so burnt and wounded that you are left with no option but to let go? Or would you gladly let your hands get burnt by the ropes?
This question might sound ridiculous if you didn’t get the metaphor. It’s pretty simple, actually. We often hold on to things (read: people) that hurt us a lot, but only because we are afraid to lose them. We don’t want to feel the pain of losing something so precious. Ironically, we are only hurting ourselves more by holding on to them, which is just as bad. Either way, we get hurt. So which one do you think is the better option- the one where you hold no matter how much you get hurt or the one where you let go, hurting yourself in the process and slowly but effectively heal? This is where I tell you that letting go of something that hurts you (especially if it hurts you) is perfectly alright; it doesn’t make you the bad guy.
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
― Deborah Reber,
Letting go is good for us. It helps us heal and move forward with our lives. Unless we learn to let go of whatever is holding us down, we can never go ahead.We also become more understanding about the situation; we become more accepting. To let go, we need to first understand and then forgive the situation; know that the situation is over. Brooding over it and crying over the way you wish things could have been will only deepen your already healing wounds. Understand that while whatever you may have lost was the best according to you, there is something better out there. Sure, you may not find it right away; but you will. These kind of things take their own time to happen; when they do happen, it’ll all finally make sense. Just give it some time.
Another important part of letting go is not hating, because when we hate someone/ something, it makes an impact on our heart. It is engraved in our mind. Hate is a very powerful feeling. It is destructive and impairs our judgement. So it is always better to forget them instead of spending our mental energy on hating them. We tend to think about the people we hate- which is the exact opposite of letting go. Learn to forgive and forget (or maybe just forget).
“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
― Steve Maraboli
Sometimes, we are afraid to let go of things because we want to hold on to the memories associated with them. We are afraid to step out of our comfort zones because we are afraid of the change it will bring. We should lose that fear. Maybe it’s what is holding us back from getting the better things in life. Incredible things start happening in our lives when we finally start taking control of the things we have power over, instead of craving for the things we have no power over at all. If we can’t control something, we shouldn’t stress over it. Let it go, flow with the river for a while before you can start pushing your way upstream again. Release the stress.
Understand this- yesterday is gone. There is nothing you can do to bring it back. There is no use brooding over it. We can’t “should’ve” done something anymore. What is gone, is gone. Let go of yesterday, no good is going to come out of it if we keep holding on! What we do have is today, the only day we can do something about. Release that attachment you have to yesterday and embrace today. Today is a new day. Today is the one you should be working on. Renew yourself every day and let go of yesterday.
“The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.”
― Steve Maraboli,
We must know that there are times when we must not let go, too. There are things that can be solved. Not everything has to be set free. There are things we must hold on to. Even if we do decide to let go, we should learn to start over. We must be smart enough when to let go and when to hold on. Some things are meant to go, while some are not. It’s all about out what is important in life. So, we shouldn’t beat ourselves up over something that we let go of, something that we had no control, no power over.
So, the next time you’re in a fix, thinking about letting go- release the stress. What can’t be controlled just can’t be; there are so many more things that you can control. Take charge of those kind of situations. Letting go of the smaller things in life will get you bigger things. You can’t hold on to something that wants you to go, so just let things go. Whether you want to let go is your choice, it is in your hands- it’s something you can control. Think wisely before you let go.
“There are times in life when people must know when not to let go. Balloons are designed to teach small children this.”
― Terry Pratchett
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