Think about the last conversation you had with someone you love. What was the last thing you ever said to them? Do you think you’re satisfied with that conversation? If your paths went a different way than you had originally planned tomorrow, would you regret not saying something?
Take a moment and think about it.
There are so many words- so many meaningful combinatons of words, so many different emotions attached to them, and yet, we cannot find the right words to say when the opportunity is given to us. Why is it that we forget to express ourselves in front of the ones who matter the most?
Is it the fear of not being able to say the right thing? I get it. It isn’t easy to always have the right things to say. Sometimes, it’s even better to shut up than to end up saying all the wrong things- the only problem here is there will be a million things that will remain unsaid and a part of you will always keep asking why you never said all those things you should have.
“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.”
― Sigmund Freud
Personally, I feel that one should never leave things unsaid. It leads to so many problems, least of which are misunderstandings and assumptions. We have this tendency to overthink every time there is a lot of silence- I don’t know how that works, but it does.
People cannot always read what’s going on in our minds, you know? They’re not psychic, and you’re not a book. True, the people closest to you can tell what’s wrong from just a look- but even they cannot read your mind all the time.
Which is why you should try to be a little more vocal. You don’t have to express your emotions in front of everyone, it can be a couple of close friends that you can confide in. It’s strange that even though there is a part of us that is struggling to burst forth and spill emotions everywhere, we choose to go along with the lie that is ‘I’m fine.‘
“Fine.” …a word that you said when someone asked how you were but didn’t really care to know the truth.”
― Sarah Dessen,
The people who can disclose the lie behind all of your ‘I’m fine‘s are the ones who want to surround yourselves with- because they’re the ones you can be really vocal with. As for the others? Make it a point to be a little more expressive regarding your feelings. It’s not always that people can tell what’s going on with you, unless you tell them yourself!
You want something? Ask for it, don’t be cranky and expect people to decode your tantrums. You like someone? Tell them instead of being a miserable mess of a person. You don’t like something/ someone? Be politely honest, instead of cold-shouldering them, expecting them to take-a-hint. Say it- don’t keep it bottled up.
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