So, before you guys get confused, go check out Love in 2019- Part 1 because this post is going to be a continuation of sorts.
If you’re reading this, I’m going to assume that you’ve read Part 1 already— yay! Good for you. So without any further ado, I’m going to get back to my regularly scheduled rant/ take on the concept of ‘love’ in today’s day and age. Let’s go!
Personally, I think that the reason a lot of us are so scared of actually committing ourselves to a relationship is that our generation is very career-oriented (as we should be), and there’s this misconception that there cannot be time for something like a relationship, or a social life, or even just self-love when we are focused on our careers.
That, obviously, isn’t true because everybody gets the same 24 hours. We ignore and let go of a lot of the good in our lives mostly because we feel as if there isn’t enough time to fit another person (or in some cases, me-time) in our schedules. And that is exactly where the problem lies.
Now, I definitely wouldn’t suggest that you force yourself into a relationship (in the broadest sense of the word) just to avoid feeling lonely, but I want to tell you that relationships are not about spending every waking minute together. They’re about supporting each other’s goals and helping each other grow as individuals, not about losing individuality to one another.
Another reason why a lot of people don’t really hurt over people anymore is that they don’t invest themselves emotionally, to begin with. I know of people who think that the people they are friends with or people they date are expendable. Useless. As if they have no meaning at all. I find that concept hard to grasp. Sad, even.
Think of it this way— we don’t learn how to ride a bicycle without the training wheels right away. We fall, our knees and elbows get skinned, and I’m pretty sure there’s an embarrassing story ending in tears in there somewhere! If we don’t put ourselves out there because we’re way too scared about the heartbreak that we assume we’ll have to endure, how are we ever going to know about all the love that exists in this world?
Also, there is a reason why letters were hand-written and why phone-calls were made to our loved ones. They conveyed real emotions. There was a sense of patience and anticipation to it. Letters carried the essence of their warm hands pouring emotions in ink, and phone-calls had the sound of their voice. And I hate to break it to you, but texts and emails will never be able to convey the kind of emotion that hand-written letters could.
For a generation that is constantly whining about ‘all the good ones being taken’, we sure overlook them a lot. Fight for love, people. All kinds of love. We fight for everything else, don’t we? And I’m not complaining; it’s amazing how much of a stand we can take. Isn’t that how we’ve achieved so much thus far?
All I ask of you is to not let love die in this world. Don’t let love get reduced to artsy Instagram photos and unrealistic expectations. If it happens for you, let it happen, and don’t compare it to anyone else’s.
It’s time we brought the old ways and meaning of love back!
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