I pretty much laughed as I typed in the title for this post because, whether we like it or not, the concept of ‘love’ has dwindled so badly in the last few years. Nobody wants to believe in love, and nobody wants to believe that they’re worthy of being loved. And quite frankly, nobody wants to take out the time for love because there’s this misconception that love can be very time-consuming.
Those who do believe are mocked at, called ‘fools’ or ‘impractical’ because ‘These things don’t happen today. You were probably born in the wrong era. The rest of us are still trying to figure out who we are, what we want from our lives, what we want in our lives, who we like, who we want to stick by— all the important things.
I find this pretty sad, being an old-school, hopeless romantic and everything. The whole concept is being reduced to texting each other every day, replying within 2 minutes, obligatory Instagram posts, unnecessary strings of break-ups and patch-ups, becoming ‘bored’ of your partner and ghosting or ending up cheating because ‘no one will find out anyway’. How did I forget to include the fear of commitment in all of this?
It’s no wonder that a lot of us are terrified at the very idea of ‘love’. It’s more about being terrified of getting our hearts broken, of letting people in. But as a person in love with someone, and knows of others in love, I can tell you it’s not all that bad after all. Sure it takes a little effort from both sides, but when you’re in love with somebody, it’s as easy as breathing.
To those of you who have found the love of your life, great! I’m so happy that you did. This post isn’t about you! But hello, cynics? I’m talking to you.
What we don’t get is that love isn’t something we can keep at an arm’s distance. It creeps up on you. And I’m not talking about just romantic love either. Think about the kind of love you have for your best friends; you’d do anything for them. There are no barriers when it comes to your inner circle because you know you can trust them blindly. You’d know in a heartbeat if something was wrong with them, as they would in your case.
See, what we define as ‘love’ in 2019— sharing social media passwords, showing up on each other’s handles, taking photos purely “for the ‘gram,” restricting each other’s actions on social media, expecting grand gestures and extravagant dates— it’s as if we try to merge into a single being instead of supporting each other’s individual goals and dreams.
Maybe it’s because, in the day and age of social media, we feel obligated to document our private lives more than our parents used to. Maybe it’s the number of Rom-Coms that have increased our expectations. But what about the good old ways when a simple, hand-written letter could convey oceans’ worth of meaning? What about the good old ways?
Before I can bore you all, I’ll stop here and I’ll continue this topic in tomorrow’s post. So make sure you check that out too!
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