For those who are unfamiliar with the word, don’t worry about it. It just means being shaken to your very core. Being taken by surprise. The reason why I am ‘shooketh’ today is that a bunch of things were revealed last night and it brought back a lot of things that I would much rather just forget because all they do is bring fear and pain. But this isn’t about me. This is about people being unwilling to take responsibility for something that they were knowingly and willingly a part of.
Of course, I won’t talk about it here because this is not the platform that I would decide to voice my opinions on when it comes to such serious matters. But let me tell you why it is wrong to just stand by and be a silent spectator to the kind of heinous things that are happening around us right now. It all comes down to a very simple concept: basic morals. That’s right. Decency. If not immense respect, we should learn to respect and acknowledge the existence of people around us just to be a nice person in general.
But clearly, a lot of people did not get the memo because they still choose to make it all about themselves, as if the world would deem them irrelevant if they didn’t shut up for a single moment. No, buddy. Just no, read the room and learn to sympathise with people while they’re coming out in the open with their stories because it takes a lot of courage to put it out there in the first place. Either you add something of value to the discussion, or you silently let people come forward with their stories.
What you do not do here is to make it all about yourself and then make it a competition to decide which one of you has had it worse. What you do not do is to force others to speak up because you do not get to control their narrative. What you do not do is force people who weren’t even involved to take a stand to push your agenda. And what you absolutely do not do is try and defend your actions of you have been in the wrong, and it definitely doesn’t matter which side of wrong you were on.
There aren’t a lot of things that get me roles up, but one those things is how easily people decide to change their narratives to benefit the, because they think nobody is ever going to find out. But guess what? Karma comes for us all. So when people bring up an important topic, either we amplify their voices or support them in whatever way possible, but for love of all that is sane in this world, don’t force people to come o with their experiences with something that triggers them. Just don’t do it.
The reason is that some of us need to take time and process how to react in certain situations and not all of us are ready to voice our opinions when asked. And because we are always learning, always evolving, always trying to be better and always trying to heal from something, it’s not right for any of us to force others to speak up. It doesn’t matter if it’s ‘for the greater good’ or whatever. Give people the time and space they need to bring their stories out in the open.
It takes a while to get over the initial shock of things. I really hope that we are more mindful of how we ask people to deal with topics that may trigger them. Let’s be more understanding. Let’s be better.
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