Fun fact: That title? It’s something my weather app says to me sometimes.
Which made me wonder: remember a time before the internet when conversations would begin with ‘Crazy weather today, huh?’ Remember the time when the internet was like a shiny new toy, a door to a whole new world? We sent ‘hey’s’ and ‘hi’s’ to people to begin a conversation with them.
Cut to 2019, conversations start with sliding into someone’s DM on Instagram, sending the same old ‘hey’s’ and ‘hi’s’, and end with ‘nothing much, you?’ TRAGIC.
So, let me ask you the real question here: has small-talk become the new ‘deep’? Have we really become so sick of getting to know people just because we want to live in our cozy bubbles? There’s nothing wrong with being comfortable all by your lonesome. But having real conversations with people is something we’ve just got to learn.
Hey, I get it if you don’t really feel like talking sometimes. There are times when we’re all in a really bad mental space, or maybe we’re not really too much of a people-person. But that still doesn’t mean we should stick to shutting people out. Let the right ones in.
Okay, let me stop beating around the bush and make this very simple for you: technology was supposed to bring us closer, not push us further apart. But it’s exactly what has happened. No? Let me guess, you hate phone calls and prefer texts instead? Yeah, that’s what I thought. It isn’t something we should be proud of.
We seem to text each other a lot, but when was the last time you had a real conversation with anybody? How many people can you talk about everything under the sun with? And how many people do you want to talk to? You’re not going to know much about your crush if you end your conversations with ‘lol nothing much’, either. Just stating the facts here.
You’d be surprised at how much you could find out about someone by just talking to them. Even just a few minutes ago, my Dad told me that I should learn how to give people a chance. You see, I’m not a perfect person preaching; I’m just one of you, trying to learn and grow.
You see, we’ve become so comfortable with looking at everybody’s Instagram-curated lives through a tiny window that we forget that they are real people with real lives and real stories behind the scenes. We automatically assume that we know everything about them because we religiously follow their lives. But I’ll let you in on a secret— content creators I’ve had the pleasure of meeting are nothing like I imagined they’d be; they’re such genuine and friendly people, and I’m so glad I got to know them outside of social media.
Maybe it is time we moved past cringy small-talk about what the weather is and tried to get to know people better by asking them about things they like. Who knows? You might even end up bonding over that one show you have watched hundreds of times without getting sick of it!
And before my introverted and socially awkward readers call me insensitive, I just want to add that it’s okay if you want to take it slow or not get to know someone at all. But for everyone else: take a chance, give others a chance and get to know people. Our lives are incredibly short for us to have missed out on getting to know at least some of all the amazing people out there.
As much as I love social media because it allows me to interact with some really interesting people, I’m going to start cutting the small-talk crap and getting to know people better. I’ve made some of my best friends because I gave them a chance, and so can you. You in?
Hey, everyone! I hope you liked my post. I realized that people are slowly drifting apart and since I’m a huge believer of positivity and spreading sunshine is something I love, I decided that it’s high time that we started to become more warm and welcoming people. Spread this love far and wide, and let me know what your thoughts are in the comments below. You can also reach me on all my socials. I’ll look forward to hearing from all of you!