My head is so often filled with words that I would probably never say out loud sometimes, I can tell you that it is so loud in there. I am sure that a lot of you can relate to what I am about to say right now. At some point in time, we have all felt so overwhelmed and done with just about everything around us, we have stopped explaining ourselves and our actions to others because no matter what we had to say or do, our own words were somehow twisted and used against us.
That’s quite the tricky spot to be in, let me tell you, and I have been there myself a couple of times. After a while, I just let people go ahead and assume the worst of me because I didn’t want to spend another ounce of energy trying to show people the truth. There’s only so much that any of us can say or do to prove ourselves, and yet, there will always be people who are out to get you, even if you don’t necessarily have any bad blood.
It’s each man for himself out there, and it is disappointing how people will disregard years of having known you for some false rumours floating around, instead of doing the decent thing by asking you for your side of the story. This reminds me of a quote from a show I was watching. It goes something like, “Sometimes, the world only needs an excuse or a target. A target that everyone can hate…” and it struck a chord with me more than it probably should have because not only have I taken the heat for things I haven’t even done, but I have also seen a lot of my loved ones go through this.
And as much as I hate saying this, I have caught myself wishing that I had more control over what was being said about me. But the truth is that no matter how much we try, we cannot control what people say about us. All we can do is know what our truth is and stick to it. The world outside does not get to decide your reality. Keep this in mind, always. They can speculate and talk all they want, but in the end, the only people who know your truth are a handful of people in your inner circle, and of course, yourself.
You do not owe anybody any kind of explanations, especially if it comes at the cost of your own sanity. I keep repeating this because, over the last couple of years, I have come to realize how important it is to put our own peace of mind over some silly dispute started by somebody irrelevant that you’re probably never going to cross paths with ever again. But at the same time, it is important to make it clear where you stand in all of the drama that has left you wondering just where you went wrong.
I am glad that I have had the same bunch of people who have stuck by me over the years, no matter what kind of Hell I was being dragged through. And although I am not happy about what they have been put through, I am glad that I stood by them. If you have people who have stuck by in situations where it was quite literally you against the world, I would suggest that you keep these people close because they’re the real ones. They’re the kind of people who would rather hear you out before jumping to conclusions and I cannot stress how important it is to have such people in our lives.
And, in the end, even the entire world villainizes you for something that wasn’t exactly your fault, to begin with, I hope you know how to prove everyone wrong by simply looking the other way and keep being the person you actually are. Because sometimes, the best way to prove who you are to the world (even though you don’t necessarily have to) is to keep being true to yourself and let things fall into place on their own. I have learned the hard way that trying to explain ourselves doesn’t always work.
Which happens to be fine by me because I know who has my back and I know that I don’t have to wear a mask in front of the world. I may not show my most real self, but she’s not very far off from the person I let the world see. And it is because of that I am confident with the choices I make. So, if you want to take control of your narrative, I suggest that you don’t spend too much time trying to explain yourselves to others because it rarely ever works.
It’s okay to let the world say whatever it wants to while you work under the radar because it means that nobody is going to try and get in your way. I keep telling myself that the opinions of strangers on the internet can somehow affect me, and they do because I am human after all. But it doesn’t really make a difference to who I am as a person and what I believe in, and I think that realizing this is what made all the difference to me.
Make wise choices?
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See owning your own thoughts don’t disqualify you from the criticism that you will face from other people. When you have words to say and or write there will be people picking with you. Throwing shade and hating you. But you have to have thick skin. You can’t go around convincing everyone of who you are. Because the name of the game is not for them to get to fully know you. They just know of you through what you say through camera or what you write about on a post. You can’t say anything back to them to defend yourself. It’s pointless. Not because you are scared of anything but those particular people that are targeting you for whatever reason. Only God truly knows why they do what they do. Are desperate for attention and by you going back and forth with them is just giving them the fuel that they need to stay relevant. So don’t worry about them. They aren’t even on your level. They are just made because you were able to cultivate your gifts and talents. You are possibly living the dream that they talk about. These same people that try to hurt you are the same ones that like and watch everything that you produce. Aka your fans. So keep going on never mind them. The relevance that they are searching for needs to be produce by them making something of themselves not from you feeling any hurt or pain from the anger that they have toward themselves about themselves being aimed at you. Let people say what they want and think what they want. You are whatever they say that you are. Just know that at the end of the day you are still winning. Trust and only concern yourself with what you think and know to be true about you. Those that spend time with you in your everyday life that truly have your best interest at heart know more about you. Be secure in that and just forget about rest of that foolishness. Because if people that spend time all day criticising and hating knew that if they spent half as much energy and effort on themselves as they do trying to destroy others they to would be in a excellent position in life.
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Thank you for your very kind words, and for the reboot as well! I shall keep them in mind. Hope you’re having a great day!
Your welcome. Yeah I’m having a pretty good day now that’s it’s 88 degrees in Chicago. Hope you’re having the same and great blog post by the way. It was definitely true and I’m sure alot of content people go through that. I enjoyed reading it.
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