I always keep telling myself that when you don’t plan ahead, you are more flexible and you’re open to facing whatever challenges that may come your way because you’re kinda’ ready for just about anything. The fun thing about having no set expectations but still having a dream or a goal to work towards is that you learn to weather whatever storm can and will hit you. Personally, I feel I’m a lot more equipped to withstand the lows because I don’t really expect things to go a certain way.
Maybe the reason why I don’t particularly like set plans is that as far as I have experienced, you can plan all you want, right down to the last second, and things will still change. There will be circumstances that you never even planned to deal with. The thing about plans is that they change within a heartbeat, and not having any plans at all has made me capable of being able to come up with solutions on the spot if need be. It’s one of the things that I’m good at but I don’t give myself enough credit for.
People automatically assume that I have my stuff sorted because I have a habit of journaling everything and writing down my ideas and prompts in them; I have around 6 different journals, so it’s easy to see where that comes from. But if I’m being honest, I wouldn’t call myself a sorted person. It’s more about me knowing how to sort out my issues instead. I’m a mess, but I’m also the kind of person who knows her way out of that mess. And that goes for everybody who believes in just letting themselves see where the road goes.
I think it has a lot to do with my can-do attitude and my knack for mind-numbing lay obnoxious levels of optimism. I think this is partly the reason why I don’t let myself wallow in sadness for too long, because I know that things might be bad right now, but the way I see it, they could either get a lot worse or a lot better. Worrying about it certainly not going to help me anyway. So why not come up with a solution to work with whatever I have instead? Even if I do mess up along the way, I’m going to learn something out of it, so I might as well.
Don’t get wrong here, though. People who can make elaborate plans and stick to them, see them through to the end without changing a single thing, good for you! I appreciate you. I know that it’s a very difficult thing to do and it’s amazing how dedicated you are. But then, there are people like me who don’t stick to a plan because plans can be restricting at times. And for that, we get a lot of ‘Don’t you have any ambitions?’ and ‘What do you plan on doing with your life?’ from people who don’t really need to know the answers to these questions.
It’s not that we don’t have the answers to them. We’d just prefer not to answer them. Also, to those who are wondering whether it is important to have a plan: it is not. It is important to have goals in life, yes, but you’re going to be just fine whether you have a plan or not. After all, those who have a plan mapped out stumble around just as much as we do anyway. If you know where you want to be and what you want from life, and if you’re ready to really work for it, you’re going to be alright.
Breathe. Stumble around a bit. Smell the flowers along the way or whatever. You’re not lost. You’re not out of focus. You’re right where you need to be and you’ll get where you want to be, too. It’s all good.
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