We love our family and our friends, don’t we? They mean so much more than the whole damn world to us, and I know you’d do anything for them. I know it, because I would do it for the ones I love. But, in the midst of taking care of everyone we care about, why is it that we often forget to take care of ourselves? Why do we let ourselves go? Consider me a well wisher who is just looking out for you, but I think it’s high time that you paid attention to your well-being, too. You’re not going to be of much use to anyone, let alone your loved ones, if you haven’t sorted stuff out for yourself.
Let me tell you what’s okay, and what’s not!
It is absolutely okay to make sure that you look absolutely flawless before leaving the house. Take that time to perfect your winged eye-liner, or choose your outfit. But here’s when it’s not okay- when you do it every single time! Doing it all the time, my friends, is borderline narcissism. Making sure you look good is one thing, but completely obsessing over what outfit would go with that shoe or lipstick, or spending hours looking at yourself in the mirror is not okay!
It’s okay if you want to take a few days off for your health, be it mental or physical. Sleep in, order a take-out, read, write, or just wrap yourself in a blanket and watch some movies or sitcom. It is extremely important that we put our health first. But, it is not okay to shut the world out completely. Lone time heals you, but isolation? Isolation breaks you. It makes people shut out their emotions and become completely numb to their surroundings. Because the day you are hit with a single emotion, it creates a domino effect and every other emotion that you had shut inside will flood you. Which is why it is always good to have a confidant, even if it’s just your journal.
Being a girl, I can tell you that we get a lot of flak for wearing makeup or wearing none at all. But dear boys who hate makeup on girls, you are the ones who ask girls to “not let themselves go” and to “put more efforts into how they look”. You simply cannot have it both ways. There are girls who choose to look after themselves by eating that big slice of cake and ordering extra fries, and then there are girls whose choice of self-care is staying fit. It’s their choice. And no one, not a single soul, has the rights to tell them what to do with their bodies, how to look, or restrict them from what kind of food they should be eating instead of what they like. And the exact same rules apply for men, too! Where would the world be if we, as humans, cannot appreciate each other’s decisions and life choices?
There is, however, a very fine line between putting yourself first and being selfish. As humans, we are supposed to look after and be there for each other. But it is also important to take care of ourselves. There are people I know of who would gladly help everyone, just to ignore their own burden. This is wrong on so many levels. We can’t just ignore everything that is going on. It will catch up to us. That’s how the world works. So we start small, we start by taking care of ourselves and solving our own issues. And it is completely alright to say ‘no’. If you don’t want to be a part of something, then it is alright to walk away from it.
Let us all take a step towards self-love. Appreciate yourself for who you are, and if you want to better yourself, support yourself in a positive manner. Book tickets to the place you’ve been wanting to go to for so long. Call your doctor and fix that appointment that you have been avoiding for months now. Go get a hair cut, manicure, pedicure, facial, massage- whatever makes you feel better about yourself. Live life to the fullest. And most importantly, LOVE YOURSELF enough to put yourself first sometimes.
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