So, after I wrote about Girl Power yesterday, I decided that just one post wouldn’t do justice to how strong the bond can get in female friendships, so I thought, ‘Hey, you know what? Time to write an updated version of the sis-code!‘ and here it is.
Before I go ahead and write about the Sis-Code, I think that you should know that this goes beyond just the girls in our immediate circle. Girls reading this right now probably know all of it already like the back of their hand, but it never hurts to remind yourself again!
1. Thou shalt always hype a sis up and be supportive of her.
This is probably my favourite and the most unspoken rule of all, but somehow, every girl knows what to do when she sees another girl trying her best to love herself. It never hurts to leave nice comments saying, ‘You look amazing, bb!‘ or a simple ‘You go, girl!‘ because let’s face it— making someone’s day doesn’t just make them happy, it leaves you with a fuzzy feeling too.
2. Thou shalt always help out a sis in need.
We’ve all been caught unaware by our period, a bad shoe-bite, or really bad hair day at one point or another. During my college days, I’ve had girls I don’t even know come up to me in the washroom and ask me if I had any extra pads or tampons on me because they really needed one. Luckily, I always carry a couple of extra pads, band-aids and hair-ties in my purse, just in case someone happened to need one.
3. Thou shalt help a sis out in case of a wardrobe malfunction.
This is probably the worst-case scenario of being unprepared. Maybe there’s a loose thread in the seam of a dress or a small tear that happened to go unnoticed but it’s visible now. The first rule here: don’t lie and say, ‘No, it’s not that bad!’ If it’s something that will embarrass the girl, be gentle but be honest about what’s going on with her dress and then help her fix it the best you can.
4. Thou shalt pretend to know a sis when she feels unsafe.
One can never be too safe. So when a sis walks up to you and tells you that she’s being followed by someone or some random creep is bothering her at the club, act like your life depends on it, and I assure you, it does! Give her a big hug and loudly exclaim that you were looking for her, or that you’ve missed her, or that you haven’t seen her in such a long time— something. Pretend to be her girlfriend if creepy guys won’t back off!
5. Thou shalt NEVER go after your friend’s ex or crush!
Kind of an obvious one, but also a really big one. Just don’t do it. If your friend has dumped a guy, there must be a good reason behind it. And if the guy is the one who broke your friend’s heart, your job is to hunt him down and hate him more than your friend does, not date him. (Or if your friend parted with the guy on amicable terms, make sure she’s totally cool with it, but it’s probably best not to date her ex anyway.)
6. Thou shalt always inform a sis if she’s being cheated on.
Heartbreaking, I know! When a guy is dating a girl, but he’s also cheating on her with someone else or tries to hit on you, you go tell her to dump his ass because nobody deserves to be treated like that. The girl definitely deserves much better anyway. So gather all the receipts you can and break it gently. (It’s best if you do it with chocolates or cookie-dough, though!)
7. Thou shalt live by ‘Empower, not compete’.
Mean girl power struggles only belong in movies, TV shows, and badly written stories. There are already enough people trying to push women back into the corner that our ancestor-sisters have fought to get out of. There is absolutely no need to start a cat-fight or try to demean a girl just because she is working for the same thing as you are. Who knows? You might even make a really good friend in the process!
8. Thou shalt not let a sis be on her own when she is drunk.
No. You’re not her mother or her care-taker. But as a decent human being, being there for other girls when they are drunk and not in their senses is the only thing you should do. Forget calling her a cab home; accompany her back home, make sure she’s hydrated enough, and overall, keep a sis safe because it’s a cruel, cruel world and us girls got to look out for each other.
9. Thou shalt be honest when a sis asks how her makeup looks.
Nobody wants to be going out with clumped mascara or foundation that makes them look like their face belongs on a different body. So when a sis asks you how her makeup looks, be honest. I know it hurts to tell somebody that their makeup isn’t good, but help her fix it. Never let a sis be the laughing stock. Even if you don’t really know her.
10. Thou shalt never body-shame a sis.
Nothing, and I mean nothing gives you the right to body-shame another girl. I don’t care how pretty you are; if you body-shame another girl or criticize her for wearing what she wants, ya’ ugly from the inside! Seriously, haven’t we had enough from the countless beauty commercials that tell us we’re not good enough? Don’t shame a sis for her body-type or her choice of clothes.
So, there it is! A list of unspoken rules of the sis-code. Remember to always support and empower each other, even though you don’t really all know each other. You’re all amazing!
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