Hi! If you weren’t already aware, I wrote something about the representation of female friendships in pop culture yesterday, and it blew up! Definitely did not expect that, and thank you all for the amazing response. I’m so glad to see women backing up other women just because sisterhood is such a strong thing.
So, in the wake of the success of yesterday’s post (Go read it if you haven’t already!), I decided to bust some of the most idiotic myths about female friendships. I’m pretty sure someone who saw girls letting loose, and didn’t understand what was going on started these myths.
I know that on the outside, female friendships can look like we’re just totally nutso about anything and everything because most of the time, we’re just hyping up other women even though we don’t actually know them. But that’s just solidarity, not madness.
Here are 5 myths about female friendship that just have to go:
MYTH #1: Female friendships are all fake and extremely fickle.
TRUTH: Hell, no! To an outsider, female friendships might look fake because we always support women we don’t even know or compliment them on their shade of lipstick, or their beautifully done eyeliner, but they’re all genuine compliments. There are enough people in the world who are trying to make us feel bad for just about everything we do. So the very least we can do is be nice to each other. We don’t betray our sisters like everyone thinks.
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MYTH #2: Every girl has an inside-squad that she has known since her childhood and these friendships last forever.
TRUTH: We do have an inside squad. But that’s just one out of the many inside-squads we have. And guess what? All these squads are interconnected. We know some of our friends since childhood and the others are friendships we’ve made along the way. And despite what movies and TV shows tell you, they do not last forever. Some drift away, and that is okay.
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MYTH #3: Female friendships are all about drama, all the time.
TRUTH: Contrary to popular belief, fueled by movies like Mean Girls that suggest that women like to stir up trouble when they’re bored, female friendships are definitely not about drama. Although we like a good gossip session from time to time, we’re not all about drama. Buddy, most of the time, we’re just sharing life-hacks with each other most of the time.
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MYTH #4: Female friends have to stay in contact all the time.
TRUTH: Man, I don’t know who told you this, but the only real conversations we ever have are over the weekends, at nights, when we have a bag of potato wafers or a tub of ice-cream open. Any other time of the week, we’re just busy hustling. We have a life, career and other friends too, you know? The only kind of contact we have over the week is sharing posts about makeup and outfits on Instagram.
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MYTH #5: Hierarchy based on looks exists in female friendships.
TRUTH: You know, the kind that they show on TV? Big, bad and beautiful girl rules a squad full of girls who try to look exactly like her? Nope. That doesn’t happen. Female friendships are all about celebrating how beautifully different we are from each other. We don’t want to look like each other! If anything, we love the kind of diversity that every woman brings to our group of friends.
If at all you have any kind of doubts about the way female friendships work, please ask an actual girl, or refer to books or shows that are written by women. Female friendships are so incredibly powerful. Honestly, it’s a shame that these myths make us sound like a bunch of airheads.
But you know better now, don’t you?
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