Going through adolescence is so hard. I remember it as the time when I was at my emotional lowest, and my self-confidence had dipped to almost nothing. I would dread going to school because my batchmates would bully me for looking ‘ugly’ or having acne-prone skin, which is completely normal.
Now that I look back, I didn’t really have a reason to hate myself for the way I looked back then because it’s normal to go through a lot of bodily changes during puberty. It took me a while to piece my self-confidence together and start loving myself again for who I really am.
It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you have with your friends or family as long as you don’t have a loving relationship with yourself. This might come off a little harsh, but even though my family and friends gave me all the love and support they thought I’d need during my rock bottom, it could never make up for the kind of love and kindness that I could have shown myself.
Forget what books, movies or sappy internet quotes tell you; nobody is going to glue your broken pieces back together. People in your life, no matter how supportive they might be, aren’t meant to be your therapists. So expecting them to compensate for your lack of self-love is almost unfair.
Everybody has their own highs and lows going for them and expecting them to show you the love that you cannot show yourself is just emotionally draining for both of you. Sure, having a supportive person in your life can make your journey towards loving yourself a little easier. But it’s never really complete until you can do so yourself.
I won’t say that it’s a cakewalk. It won’t always be rainbows and unicorns; sometimes it’s going to be grey skies and storm clouds. But there is a sense of freedom, a sense of relief in the kind of love that only you can show yourself. It’s as if a weight has been lifted off of your chest after years of lugging it around.
Loving yourself is pretty damn amazing. So, even though we’re more than halfway through the year, let’s choose to love ourselves a little more every day.
Take care of yourself, would you?
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