This is possibly the weirdest thing I’ve said so far, but you know that feeling that comes after you snip off all of your split ends? Your hair immediately feels healthier and shinier because all of the dead tips are gone and only the healthy bits remain. Or, the feeling when you cut all the dead parts of your plant so that it can spend more energy in keeping itself alive than focusing on keeping the dead parts alive, as well.
I’m sure a lot of us have heard of the phrase ‘watering the dead plants‘, but we still continue to do so because, let’s be real, we don’t want to come off as a rude person.
You know how smooth and glossy your hair is once you snip out all the split ends? Yea, that but with the toxic people in your life.
I can’t really put a finger on it, but you kind of know when people are holding you back and wearing you out. I’m not saying that this is always the case because healthy communication may solve a lot of things. But sometimes, you can’t really help but feel as though you’re being pushed to your limits and it really isn’t a fun feeling because it leaves you exhausted at the end of the day, and this isn’t the kind of exhaustion that comes from doing something that you actually like.
In the nicest way possible, I am trying to tell you all to either recognize and cut off all the negativity from your life, or have a healthy conversation and let people know that they’re wearing you out sometimes. Things don’t always have to go sour, you know? You can always work things through if they aren’t irreconcilable. Then again, if you think that things are bad enough already and it’s taking a hit on your well-being, then I guess it’s time to let go of the dead weight.
I used to give myself a pretty hard time about walking away from people just because they made me feel bad about myself. I kept making excuses for them in my head, and people around me kept making excuses for their behaviour, when the truth is that the things they said have taken a hit on the way I look at myself. I am still working to get past that damage, but it’s not always easy. So, believe me when I say I know what I’m talking about, here.
I’m not saying that you have to cut all these people off. Hell, if things were that easy, who knows how many people I would have cut out of my life by now? But sometimes, you just have to maintain a cold civility and put on your biggest smile even when you don’t want to. In a perfect world, we’d be able to tell people that they were holding us back and being a bit of a jerk to us. But, this world we live in isn’t exactly perfect and that is okay!
The point of this post? Honestly, I don’t even know. I’m just here to tell you that you’re not alone. This happens to a lot more people than you think and it’s very, very valid.
Here’s hoping some of you are braver than I am at cutting off the dead weight in your lives. I’m working on it. I really am. But you know how it is, don’t you?
Cheerio! Xx
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