20th June, 2019
‘You won’t have to study after college,’ they said. ‘You won’t have to,’ they said. What they failed to mention is that the learning never ends. Ever. And sometimes, you just have to unlearn some of the things that you were raised with in order to learn to look at the world with a much better and accepting perspective. A lot of people fail to realize that the beliefs they have been raised with are not the same as their ‘morals’, and they often tend to shame others for seeing the world differently.”
I once read somewhere that the first thought that crosses your mind when you see something is what you have been conditioned to think. The next thought that comes to your mind defines who you really are. See, growing up, we are subjected to a lot of thoughts that are definitely not our own, but they play a huge role in shaping who we will grow up to be.
That’s why I choose to surround myself with as much positivity as I can. Because I have been at the receiving end of hate and ostracization and let me tell you, it is so not pretty! It took me a long while to snap out of all the disturbance that clouded my thoughts. And in the process of healing from the past, I learned a lot of things and changed my perspective to try and understand the world better.
Of course, you don’t always have to unlearn the old to learn the new. But when the ‘old’ is intolerant, disrespectful, harmful, and extremely judgemental, it is better to let go of it and learn to be a more accepting and welcoming person who can respect others’ perspectives without having to force our own thoughts on them.
Everywhere I go, I hear that learning is something that never stops. It’s a continuous process and we stop learning only when we take our final breath. So, it is perfectly okay if we unlearn the more toxic ‘morals’ and ‘beliefs’ to be better people. Constant learning through unlearning has now become a part of my life and it’s a change that I can say is for the better.
I am grateful for being able to change the way I see the world. It’s so much better now that I can respect people’s decisions and let go of toxicity easily.
Try it sometime, maybe?
Hey guys! For day 20, I wrote about something I’m grateful I’m learning about myself. Let me know if you have any similar stories in the comments below! You can always contact me on my Instagram if you want to talk. I’ll look forward to hearing from you.