I considered this for a while, and then I came across a very interesting essay on the internet that suggested that love tends to ‘fade away’ after a while. And it got me thinking because my parents have been in love with each other for a long, long, long time and I still want to cry my eyes out because they are so cute and madly in love.
And of course, I came to the conclusion that it isn’t that the spark dies out, but it’s the transition into a more comfortable stage that isn’t all fireworks and butterflies, but if you’re really in love, it becomes a safe space that you can come home to (both literally and figuratively).
After the fireworks and rocket’s red glare that come with the will-they-won’t-they stage of the relationship, it’s about being comfortable in each other’s presence and being able to let each other see the side of us that the rest of the world doesn’t get to see. Personally, I feel that the part that comes after the ‘spark dies’ is the actual relationship part.
I say this all the time and I’ll say it again— the spark doesn’t ‘die’ or ‘fade away’ as so many people assume. Sure, it’s like a shiny new toy in the beginning when there is still so much to discover about the person you’re in love with, but that does not necessarily mean that there isn’t anything left after you know each other inside and out. What comes after could be much, much better.
A major part of my generation isn’t ready for the phase that comes after the initial unpredictability. But imagine how good it must feel to be completely in sync with the person you love! I wouldn’t know of it because I’m not exactly there yet, but I can tell that it must be a really beautiful feeling because when Dad sings in the study, Mum completes the lyrics from two rooms away, and that is by far the most beautiful thing I’ve seen in my house.
Ergo, the spark doesn’t really die. It just transforms into something much better, that a lot of people don’t get to experience because they run away before they can give it a chance. Something that a lot of people run away from as soon as all the fun and games are over.
Give happiness a chance, will you?
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