Just like that, we have reached the last month of this decade. And with only around 17 days left, I figured I’d let you all know that you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself simply because you couldn’t check every single thing off of your list of things to do by the end of the year. You’re only human and no matter how much you try, you’re not going to get to experience everything that this world has to offer.
And no. Hopping from one country to another every other week doesn’t count as your experience. Visiting the same city over and over again and going back to the same old places isn’t experience. Experience is something that takes time and a Hell lot of chances— a fact that most ‘entry-level’ jobs don’t get when they demand 3 years of experience from a fresher. Trust me. You’re not doing anything ‘wrong’ with your life. You’re just taking your own time and that is perfectly alright.
You may look at everyone else doing things that you haven’t been able to yet, and wonder if you’ll ever get there because you’re still figuring some things out. But let me tell you something, it’s alright if you want to test the waters before you decide to dive head-first into them. So I decided to write down a few affirmations for the rest of this month/ year/ decade to remind you that you don’t always have to plan every second of your life to get somewhere. Because ‘forever is composed of nows’.
1. Where I am right now is where I am meant to be.
It isn’t always easy to convince yourself that where you are in your life at the moment is where you’re supposed to be, because we are, at our core, evolutionary beings. We always feel like there is scope for improvement and that we could have done better. And if we had done better, we would’ve been in a much better position right now.
But ask yourself this: is there anything you can do now to change that? If the answer is no, there is no use crying over spilt milk because you cannot go back and. Hangs what happened. What you can do, though, is make sure that you work harder. You’ll get there when you need to get there and not a second sooner.
2. I am working on getting healthier, happier and wiser.
The things that actually matter in life. Of course, you should chase your goals and work hard to achieve them. But it will not hold any kind of value, whatsoever, if you aren’t healthy enough to bask in your success. It won’t matter if your success doesn’t make you happy.
I’ve seen people who think that doing some XYZ thing will make them happy, so they put every bit of themselves into achieving that. But when they realize that even that success doesn’t make them happy, it loses its entire meaning. No amount of success if going to make us happy if we aren’t wise enough to understand that happiness comes from within.
3. I cannot please everybody and that is okay because I do it for myself.
As an artist and as a writer, it hurts me sometimes to see that some of my works don’t get the kind of appreciation they deserve. It hurts me to see the way this world takes art for granted even though they rely so heavily on it for their recreation. It gets me thinking if I shouldn’t do what I do anymore.
But that’s just years and years of conditioning talking. I do this because it makes me happy. Nobody else has the right to tell me what I should be doing with my life because it doesn’t concern them. So I’m accepting that reality and working for myself and nobody else.
4. I forgive myself for the mistakes made and I’ll work on being better every day.
We’ve all done things that we aren’t proud of. The first step to being a better person is knowing that what you did was wrong. If you already know it, then you’re already one step ahead of so many people who refuse to own up to their mistakes.
Forgive yourself, even if it takes you years to earn your forgiveness from anybody else. Mistakes are made by even the most innocent people. You may not be able to fix something, but what you can do is work on making sure that it never happens again. That is the true meaning of progress.
5. I refuse to carry my baggage from this year into the next.
Your problems are still going to be there when the new year kicks in. You may not be able to avoid them forever. But there is simply no use carrying all of your heartbreak and your remorse into the next year. Let it be a clean slate.
Put in honest work and efforts into being better than you were yesterday and leave the baggage behind. The only way you’ll be able to focus on your present and future is if you don’t drag your past along with you. Listen to Elsa and “Let it go”.
No matter what kind of a year you’ve had, no matter what obstacles you overcame, no matter who chose to leave, remember that this is your life. Yours. Don’t let anybody else hold too much power over you because that’s a recipe for disaster. Be your own boss and write your own stories. You’re powerful. You’re wonderful. You’re amazing!
Now go rule!
Cheerio! Xx
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Yours truly,
The Shubhster.
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