I am blown away by people who are high-maintenance and have extremely high standards for themselves. A lot of people might find these traits ‘annoying’ and ‘narcissistic‘, but I actually love people who know exactly what they want and aren’t afraid to go after it. These are the people who have their eyes on the prize and they wouldn’t settle for anything less. I have so much admiration for people who know exactly what they want from life. The amount of self-confidence and self-worth oozing from these people is incredible, and I can only hope to achieve that someday.
A lot of us mistake high standards for being ‘difficult’ or ‘demanding’ when the truth is that when you know exactly how you should treat yourself and how much you should invest in yourself, you’re also making sure that you don’t let anybody treat you with any less respect than you deserve. If anything, being what the world calls ‘high-maintenance’ makes you smart and means that you value yourself enough. I find it so inspiring when my friends are killing it in their fields, but still, somehow manage to squeeze in the time for looking after themselves.
Being ‘high-maintenance’ and having extremely high standards can actually be a healthy thing for you if you think about it. Not only does having high standards boost your confidence in yourself, but it also tells you that you need to start taking care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally when you find yourself slipping at some point. It’s not always possible to be so aware and loving to yourself, realistically speaking. We all have bad days. We all have times when we don’t feel like taking care of ourselves and just letting go for a while. And that is completely okay! We’re only human.
Somebody told me that it’s easier to focus on everybody else’s problems and overlook our own because “it’s all good as long as it’s not any of our concern.” But guess what? The more you convince yourself that you don’t have to look after yourself, the more you let yourself down. You’ve got one life, so why don’t you live it up to its fullest potential, starting with showing yourself the kind of love and respect that you’d like the world to give you? The world can only do so much. But the real support system is inside you.
Be picky. Be very specific when it comes to your Starbucks order. Don’t date people who make you uncomfortable. You don’t like that show? Who cares! Move on to watching something you like. You have a very specific bedtime routine for your skin? Hell yes, go ahead and take care of your beautiful face. You want berry water, you drink berry water! You feel like you’re too tired to adult today, you stay in and recharge for that stuff. Anything. Everything. Be a Sharpay Evans, a Blair Waldorf, or a Carrie Bradshaw. Point is, have high standards for yourself. You might not have the wallet of a millionaire, but that shouldn’t stop you from being high-maintenance.
Trust me, anybody who wants to be in your life will not see this as a flaw. Self-care is super attractive, people! You glow differently when you’re happier, and I promise you that the results of taking care of yourself are going to reflect in every aspect of your life. Remember, all of your sky-high standards as valid as long as you don’t mean anybody any kind of harm.
Now go ahead and take on the world, gorgeous!
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